A love letter to every girl that has been told she was too much

If you have ever been called too much, this is for you

I can confidently say that probably 95% of girls have been told by someone – well, obviously usually by a man – that they were too much. 

Too much to handle. Too emotional. Too dramatic. Too anything, really. 

It’s one of those go‑to phrases they just pull out of their pockets. 

They say it so often that we start to wonder: 

Am I really too much?

I’m obviously no exception to this feeling. It settled in when I was really young. 

I can assure you, reader, if you had met me as a kid and then met the person I turned into over the years, you wouldn’t recognize me.

Like most kids, I was energetic, in love with everything, always in my head. 

And of course, I was wayyy too sensitive, haha.

And, as anyone could’ve seen coming, the world doesn’t like girls who are too happy living life with all their emotions rolled up to the max. 

So they make it their life’s mission to make you feel small. 

To make you feel like too much, so they can shape you to fit their reality of society and what a girl “should” be. 

Honestly, and I’ll stand by this till today, a lot of it is just boys and their god complex – this need to control everything and everyone.

Looking back, it’s almost darkly funny how early and how easily they try to take our hearts from us. 

It starts with calling you “too loud” and ends with: 

> “Damnnnnn, why can’t you be normal? You’re so annoying.”

After a while, of course, as you can imagine, I closed off. 

I turned myself down like a song someone doesn’t want to hear. 

With time, I forgot who I was and became just a blur, a mold of who I once used to be.

Then I fell – and sister, let me tell you, I fell hard. 

I hit rock bottom and then the basement under that.

And that’s when I realized how boring everyone was who had filtered and shaped me into this “nonchalant” thing, as the kids say nowadays.

Like… why do I have to tune myself down for someone I don’t even like? 

It made no sense to me, and I can promise you: it doesn’t make sense for you either.

So naturally, I started turning myself back up. Slowly. 

And to no one’s surprise, everyone else hated it – 

but I didn’t. 

I felt alive. 

I felt my heartbeat again. 

I felt my inner child cheering for me.

Being yourself is scary. It will probably always be a little scary. 

But it’s so worth it.

Because it doesn’t just change how you see life – 

it changes how you live it. 

It makes you happy in a way that pretending never can.

And after all, isn’t life about being happy and about feeling?

Trust me: 

You will never be “too much” for yourself. 

And you will never be too much for the right people. 

If you feel like you’re too much for them? 

Sister, then kiss their asses goodbye – 

because they are not worth the ray of sunshine you are.

“If this feels like you, stay. You’re home here

Yours truly❤️